As Christians, we want to be more like Christ. “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Eph. 5:1-2) I am currently doing a study on IDisciple called Maturity and Grace: Becoming a Godly Woman. In Yesterday’s study, The Power of Words, I began reading it and thought this doesn’t really apply to me. The text is from A New Definition of Gossip by Erin Davis. I don’t gossip. I let others choose to tell their story or not, I don’t tell lies about others, so I don’t gossip, right? Well, that’s what I thought, and then I read the article and contemplated it. “If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” (1 Peter 4:11)
“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.” (Proverbs 11:3) For years I have been passionate about politics. I have made comments on others’ posts that weren’t wrong, but I question if they really needed to be said. Just because the words I use may be true, if I know the words will cause division (and what doesn’t when we talk about politics?), then I am stirring up conflict and am a gossip. And I confess many times I was self-sanctimonious. That behavior isn’t pleasing to the Lord. If it doesn’t glorify the Lord and highly esteems others, I should hold my tongue. THIS will be a big work the Lord will do in me, because I am usually happy to share my opinion. I want to share Erin’s article with you, because you just might find yourself here.
“It’s not gossip if it’s true.”
“She didn’t say that it’s a secret, so it’s not gossip.”
“I’m only telling you this so you can pray for her. That’s not gossip, right?”
Have you ever heard anyone defend their speech like this? Have you ever used these lines yourself? I have. Too many times to count.
Gossip is mentioned often throughout the Bible.
Romans 1:29-30 says, “They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.”
Yikes! Gossip is listed among some very serious offenses in this passage, making it clear that there is nothing trivial about it in the eyes of God.
Second Corinthians 12:20 says, “For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there me quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.”
You may already know that gossip doesn’t please the Lord, but what is gossip exactly? God’s Word provides the answer. According to Scripture we gossip whenever we:
- Tell a secret (Proverbs 11:13)
- Talk too much about others (Proverbs 16:28)
- Use our words to add fuel to a fight (Proverbs 26:20)
- Discuss topics we shouldn’t (1 Timothy 5:13)
- We are also gossiping any time our words cause division (Proverbs 16:28).
When we apply God’s Word to our speech, the excuses I listed above just don’t hold water. Can our words cause division, add fuel to a fight, or betray a confidence even if they’re true? You betcha! Are there some things best left unsaid even if we haven’t been sworn to secrecy? Yep. Is it necessary to share every detail of a situation in order to ask someone to pray? Not really.
I know that this can be especially tough for us gals. It’s no secret that we’ve been given the gift of gab. Often I find myself gossiping just because I can’t think of anything else to talk about. But in the future, I hope to remember God’s definition of gossip. If it doesn’t glorify Him and highly esteem others, I hope to keep my mouth shut. How about you?