Why I love this ministry approach
First of all, I am not giving you advise and good counsel, I am helping you discover the best counselor you could ever ask for, who wants to be there for you no matter what happens in life. If you can grab onto the process, you’ll be able to tap the Holy Spirit’s shoulder for all sorts of other issues in your life. Getting God to show up and speak to a person is life-changing, and will do far more than you or I could do in just giving them good advise and sound scriptures. That is because the Holy Spirit speaks to your heart, while men only speak to your mind and hope that it makes to their heart, which it may never because of all the hangups, roadblocks, and guardian lies that stand in the way.
One of the things that sets this ministry approach apart from other methods is the precise and deliberate “getting to the root” approach. We aren’t just handing our pain to Jesus, we’re figuring out why we are holding on to our pain, then giving it to Him becomes effortless. We don’t just give our anger to Jesus, we figure out what that anger is doing for us and dissolve that lie. Then giving the anger over to Jesus becomes natural and much easier to do.
We tell people that they need to forgive, but why is it that process is so difficult? Why is it that forgiving people is like pulling teeth? Because their anger, hate, and resentment is doing something for them, and until we get to the bottom of that, it may be very difficult for that person to truly let go of the charge that they hold against their offender. Some people can push through and forgive without this step, but I think for most cases, it’s a necessary step that many of us need to take. When we have a hard time forgiving, it is because we believe something about letting go of the charge that we hold against our offender. We may believe something like, “If I forgive, it means they are right!” or “If I forgive them, they will just do it to me again” or “If I forgive them, they will get away with it!” Resolve these types of lies behind the unforgiveness, and letting go of the charge they have against that person becomes effortless. Keep in mind that there may be multiple lies holding unforgiveness in place, just like multiple lies can hold other types of negative emotions in place. You may resolve one lie and then feel better, but still experience hesitancy to let go in such cases — you keep working at it by going after those other lies. “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)
My question is, if there’s a lie(s) holding your unforgiveness in place, how do you expect to totally get freedom from your resentment, hate, etc., without dissolving that lie or lies which are keeping it in place? Even if you do push through and forgive, you may re-visit that unforgiveness a week later, because the problem at it’s root has never been solved. The goal is to bring you to a place of effortless victory: not teach you to battle it every 2 weeks each time your anger problem is triggered!
The anger problem isn’t resolved until the lie that is causing you to hold on to your anger is resolved. If the anger problem keeps showing up weeks and months later, then there’s a root which is still pulling at you. Even if you have seen some breakthrough during Holy Spirit counseling, but still get triggered in that area, something is remaining that needs to be dealt with.
Ask yourself on a scale of 1 to 10, do you still feel even some anger toward so and so for molesting you at age 5 (or whatever the initial memory was)? If there’s anything left, you have not received complete freedom in that area of your life.
Some of us are incredibly good at suppressing our pain and true feelings that are buried deep within our hearts. We’ve spent a lifetime denying how we really feel because we felt it was necessary for survival. If we didn’t bury our pain, we would have gone nuts a long time ago. But that’s only a temporary solution, and is not good in the long run. We pay a price for buried pain, and we pay for it daily. We lack peace and joy, we lack the joy of being alive, we fear things we should never fear, we worry about things that Jesus told us not to worry about. If we suddenly were faced with a life-threatening condition, we wouldn’t be ready to meet the Lord because we don’t feel confident in our relationship with Him. The list could go on and on. You fail to enjoy the simple things because you are tormented by you buried pain. The truth is that you cannot truly bury your pain, you can only deny it, and that only gives you limited relief from it. The only way to truly get peace in your heart is by resolving those faulty beliefs of the heart which are keeping that pain in place.
Some people have been healed of a deep wound, say when they were raped, they will go back to that memory just to feel Jesus again because when He showed up during ministry, He so healed their wound that the old once-painful memory serves as a testimony of what Jesus did for them. Tell me that isn’t genuine healing taking place, when you can revisit the most painful experiences of your past, because since then Jesus was there and it made a world of difference for you! That is just the opposite from any ministry that teaches you to forget the past and push aside the pain. No, you get real with Jesus and invite Him into that place of deep hurt, get healing like you never thought possible, then watch as the wound is so healed that it serves as a testimony of the Lord’s goodness that you actually desire to revisit! THAT my friend, is what real emotional healing needs to look like! And that is exactly what the Holy Spirit desires to do for each and every one of us if we will get real honest about our heart beliefs, and deal with the hang-ups that stand in our way of hearing His voice.
I like to refer to this type of ministry as getting to the point of honesty, where Jesus is so ready to speak to us about the things we struggle with. In America we have become very skilled at burying our pain and living a life of bondage because we deny how we truly feel about things. Our minds (logic belief) will so often write off what our hearts truly believe, and therefore we live out the pain of that lie. Almost all of us suffer from the things we believe, namely about ourselves and about God. Our minds would never agree that we’re stupid, but perhaps our heart believes that because one time when we were in school, a teacher belittled us and the other kids laughed. Getting to a place of honesty and owning the lie is the key to solving the problem. As long as you remain in denial about how your heart feels, you will never be truly free of the pain that those beliefs carry.